How to Have Open Conversations with Teens

Communication between parents or caregivers and their teens can be tough sometimes. However,
conversations are vital for helping teens navigate life’s challenges around topics such as school,
drugs, alcohol, smoking, violence, and mental health. The CDC has reviewed scientific research,
interviewed experts, and run focus groups with parents and caregivers to develop a great online
resource, “Essentials for Parenting Teens.” Here are some tips inspired by the website to foster
open, honest conversations.

Strategies to Encourage Open Conversation

Be Available

Make time to talk, even if it’s casual. Ask about their day while driving, doing chores, or eating.
The CDC also suggests setting aside time for regular one-on-one activities, whether it’s a walk or
a shared interest. Being consistently present shows that you're approachable and invested.

Listen More, Talk Less

Teens often feel misunderstood or dismissed, especially if they sense they're being lectured.
Parents often feel their life experience makes them “right.” Focus on listening without judgment.
Let them express themselves fully and check that they want your advice or opinions. Instead of
telling them how to solve a problem, ask questions and suggest ideas only when they ask for
help.

Ask Open-Ended Questions

Avoid questions that lead to “yes” or “no” as an answer, or follow up with another prompt. Ask,
“What was the best part of your day?” or “How are you feeling about that decision?” The right
open-ended questions invite deeper discussion and allow teens to share what’s on their minds.

Overcoming Barriers

Even with the best intentions, barriers can arise. It’s natural for teens to be hesitant, especially
when discussing difficult subjects like drug or alcohol use. Here are some common challenges
and ideas about how to navigate them.

Fear of Judgment

Teens may worry about how you’ll react. Reassure them that your goal is to understand, not to
criticize. Create a non-judgmental space where mistakes can be discussed openly without fear of
punishment.

Avoiding Awkwardness

Some topics, like drugs, relationships, or mental health, can feel uncomfortable for both of you.
You can ease into these conversations using media or current events as a starting point.

Tech Distractions

It’s no secret that we’re all glued to our phones. Try scheduling tech-free time where you can
both focus on the conversation without distractions.

By approaching communication with openness, patience, and understanding, you’re
strengthening your relationship with your teen and giving them the confidence to come to you
when it matters most. Don’t be put off if conversations don’t go well one day—relationships
grow over many conversations.

Find more parenting tips at CDC (2024) “Essentials for Parenting Teens.”
https://www.cdc.gov/parenting-teens/about/index.html

If you need support for talking to teens about drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, or vapes, reach out to
LEAF for advice and support at (607) 432-0090.

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